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10 Sex-do's from Al-Ghazali
So, a lot of people are saying that marriage is not the ideal, that it’s better to seclude yourself for God, but let me tell you, marriage can be your calling. You can serve God through marriage, just look at the life of the Prophet, if marriage was evil, would the Prophet have married multiple women?
Have children. If you have children you make more faithful for God, and therefore God is the more glorified through the product of your intercourse. The child, too, will pray for you when you are gone and so you will get closer to Heaven.
Satisfy your sexual desire. “He who marries fortifies half of his religion.” If you satisfy your desire you will not fear your mind wandering while you should be focused on God. In order to do this, you must satisfy yourself so that you do not have a wandering eye, but rather enjoy sex with your wife.
Wash your genitals if you plan on having sex with more than one of your wives in a night. Practically it makes everything cleaner. It is also important that you either have sex at the end of the night, rather than at the beginning, or that you perform a limited ablution before sleeping, so that you sleep in a pure state. (Note: The prophet slept in a state of ritual impurity with his favorite wife A’ishah.)
If you see a woman you are attracted to and aroused by,run home and have intercourse with your wife. This will prevent you from sinning and stop temptation from entering your soul, for you curb the temptation through satisfying your sexual desire. Remember, “she [your wife] has what that woman has.”
Have sex before prayer (maybe even before breakfast as the son of Umar did)and that way your heart will be free to concentrate on praise of God rather than preoccupied with sexual desires and fantasies, which distract from God.
Have sex with a virgin,because if you marry and are the first to deflower a woman, she will love you more and feel closer to you. She has no one to compare you to and therefore cannot be dissatisfied with any of you *ahem* qualities. It is also better for you, because men generally prefer a woman who has not been touched by another man.
Make sure to say “He is God, the One and Only. In the name of God, Most High, Most Great; O God, cause it to be a good progeny if you cause it to issue forth from my loins” before you have sex. This will give you good healthy children. When you are about to ejaculate, make sure to say to yourself and without moving your lips. “Praise be to God Who has created humans out of fluid, and made thereof relatives and in-laws, for they Lord is omnipotent.”
Kiss her and speak sweetly to her before intercourse. For your wife is not fulfilled in her desires if you pounce on her like an animal, you must give her what she desires which is tenderness.
If you finish before your wife, continue pleasuring her until she is fulfilled. If you withdraw quickly it is harmful to her, and women’s orgasms are often slower than men’s, especially because they are often shy. She will be more gratified because you think of her desire and not your own.
Enjoy yourself;rememberthepleasurefoundintheclimaxofsexforetellsthe pleasure of paradise. You are fulfilling your religious duty in sex and it should be a pleasure. Make sure your wife knows this too, for she should help you achieve pleasure as you help her, but she should also help you achieve spiritual fulfillment, as you help her.
I hope you have found these sex tips useful and informative. Remember procreation is the most important goal of sex, but it is not the only reason to have it. Pleasure is a byproduct of sex, but not the ultimate goal. As when gets pleasure from praying one should also get pleasure from intercourse. Never let anyone try to tell you that you should not enjoy it, and don’t let them tell you that your wife should not enjoy it. What kind of a man puts his own enjoyment before his wife’s? Not a true man. If you wish to follow in the footsteps of the Prophet, you must look for her pleasure as well as your own, and find God in all of
this.